Older men are to be sober-minded, dignified, self-controlled, sound in faith, in love, and in steadfastness.
— Titus 2:2
Note: I’m building men who have integrity and dignity. I can not support those who do not look to God for direction. I understand that we all have a place we are coming from. That we might be working on conditions that we do not always have charge over. My thing is, that we should have something that can be built upon. Your just not a bad kid, there has to be a drop of good in your marrow. I build upon that, the minute I know you can do it. I do not give you an excuse for walking away from the true heart of who you are. That should be instilled within all believers. Nothing gets in the way of truth you walk on. Not even personal frustrations. Christ could do it, you can do it.
Who you are will be seen, good or bad. Many people get the wrong impression of you from first glance, especially if they do not get to know you personally. That is how you develop a kid style of integrity, and that give you dignity. Your walk changes and how you commune with others change. The man or woman you are supposed to be comes out and stands in the front.
If we who are older in the faith donor display these qualities, we cannot lead another man in life. Young men today refuse to now their understanding to follow after what you say, if you are not trusted by them. We have to be trusted by our strong young men, before they can listen to what you have to offer. How does your way benefit theirs, that they should listen to you? What son bring to a young man’s mind that gives him pause?
Look closer at those 6 themes that we should display as elders among the men. Get a clear precise understanding that we must give off these gives before anyone can lean to what we are saying. We cannot get their attention talking and acting like they do. They may already have that type of brother who is tough on them. They don’t want two men chewing them out for every thing they go to do. God hasn’t chewed us out for every missed opportunity to present ourselves in these characteristics.
I don’t presume to know the mindset of today’s young men. I’m just going from the young men I am currently raising and have brought up. I can only preach so much, but they have heard me, they do know what I expect from them as men and how they are to carry themselves. I get disappointed when I see them outside the character and integrity that I have raised them to be. Like God, I turn away from evil and shun those who choose to walk unrighteously. They seem to know what I feel and how I expect them to return to who I know they are inside.
There is deep integrity that produces dignity.